Katie Voravong

There are some live performances that you get to experience as an audience member that leave a mark on you - like the feeling of a tender close hug or a balm to your healing heart. Accidentally Heterosexual - a transgender standup special about love by Kay is one of them.

Kay’s presence on stage, the way she engages with the audience, feels like she’s your top confidante - your go-to best friend, that lovely family member you share family gossip together with, a trusted therapist you’ve been going to who’s seen you at your worst (like think snotty-bawling-crying-boohoo-hiccup kind of worst). There is so much kindness, intelligence and openness to her delivery and how she shares her story.

There is also so! Much! Humour! Kay is hilarious!!!!! The amount of smiles that I couldn’t help but smile, or giggles that would bubble from my belly, or full on ugly, barking laughter that would burst from me were endless. Effortlessly and inventively, Kay segues from joke to joke, landing punch line after punch line while still leaving you room to catch your breath, only before catching you in delightful surprise with another punch line. The cycle of smiles, giggles, and laughter then starts again and again - it’s a merry-go-round of charm, wit and joy. So, so, so much joy.

With all this being said, I think Accidentally Hetersexual is an active love letter for love, for connection, and for being human. It’s an invitation to reflect on who you truly are at this moment, to question what roles you’re a part of in your relationships, and to deep dive into what else and what more could be possible for you with honesty, hope and courage.

I think Accidentally Heterosexual is a gift. What Kay has to say might be the words you’ve been needing to hear but couldn’t articulate. It’s words that speak of a future that is accepting and embracing of everyone’s individual authenticity. Words have power, and in my humble opinion, Kay’s have the power to change you for the better, to shift something into alignment for you.

I think Accidentally Heterosexual might be one of the most important pieces of live performance I’ve seen. Right now though, I know it’s my favourite.

PS - If you’re thinking “Oh this show might not be for me,” I want to emphatically and passionately say that yes. Yes, it is. Go see it.